Thought of The Day: Lose Control!

"You have control over your work alone never the result". Krishna Bhagavad-Gita.

Good Morning and Happy Thursday to everyone that takes time out to read what I have to say. I always think I know what I am going to write about, but then when I sit down to put my thoughts on paper everything changes. This past week has been a real learning lesson for me. I learned that when you think that you’re in control of the day, when you think you’re in control of your life you’d better think again because something can always come along that can turn order into chaos and make you lose control. All that you planned has to be put on hold because of circumstance.

Recently I picked up a part-time job to help with extra expenses around the house. I have been feeling real good because I feel some sense of order as it relates to bills. I am paying things off that were being neglected due to lack of money. Lately I have been feeling great because things seem to be looking up. I woke up early Sunday to meet my friend for coffee before reporting to my part time job. It was a misty, foggy, gray, gloomy morning, and I remember saying to myself, I wish I didn’t have to get out of my bed it’s so nasty out there. Reluctantly I got dressed and headed out the door. As I was driving I was counting in my head all the things that needed to get done before the day was done. I was driving along with the radio turned off absorbed in my thoughts. I merged onto an exit ramp as I do every day when my car began to spin out of control. I didn’t realize what was happening until the car hit the guard rail and came to a stop. My only thought was….am I going to die? This was such a scary experience because even grabbing the wheel and trying to steer the car was useless. I had to just wait to see where I landed. I was in total shock. I was alone, and didn’t know what happened. A Good Samaritan stopped and made sure that I was safe. I called 911 and a cop wrote the accident report. He said the rainy condition could have caused me to spin out of control. I didn’t understand my car has new tires, I merged slowly onto the ramp; in my mind I did everything a good driver should. My car is damaged pretty badly, but I am here to write about it.

This incident showed me that even when I think that I am in control I am not. I had my whole day planned and those plans were completely changed. My whole week has been affected. I suffered major muscle stiffness and was unable to move for a few days. Money that I earned now has to be used for car repairs, not to mention the missed time from work. I am learning that you can’t control the environment, you can’t control other people; you can only control your own actions. In our society we are constantly striving to become more, to do more, to have more, but we take the simplest things for granted starting with our breath. Each breath we take affords us another opportunity to live another second. We take for granted the ones that love us the most until it is too late. This experience showed me that every second is precious. When things don’t go as planned it’s ok because we as humans will always adapt to our situations. The most important thing is to do the best that we can, the rest is out of our control.

My thought of the day is simple…..Lose control and watch how life will unfold in front of your very eyes.

~One Love….Be blessed today and Everyday!

Thought of The Day.....Consider The Source!

"Like a lotus flower that grows out of the mud and blossoms above the muddy water surface, we can rise above our defilements and sufferings of life" ~Unkown

Happy Friday.....I had a wonderful week, and I am definitely ready for the weekend. This past week I had interesting conversation with different people that left me thinking about how the words of those closest to us can affect how we think,and how we deal with and build relationships with other human beings. These words can affect very important decisions in our lives. Our loved ones have a way of projecting their fears and insecurities into our thoughts. We may look up to our friend, or relative for advice and share our deepest darkest secrets looking for validation. There is nothing wrong with seeking advice, or wanting approval from those you love, all that I am saying is that it is very important to consider the person who is providing advice. Consider the source.

We all have been wounded, we all have had experiences that we may not be the proudest of, but I now know that this a part of the journey through life. It's easy for these experiences to make a person afraid, bitter, condescending etc. When people get advice from someone they love, whether it is from their mom, sister, best friend or lover there must be the understanding that this person loves you and doesn't want to see you hurt, so they may advise you to put your dream aside, and be "normal" or not to fall in love because "he is no good;I know his type" because they have been in love before and don't want you to experience the pain that comes with the loss of love. We are often warned to play it safe, and this is how great opportunities are missed.

As the weekend approaches Femme Noir only wants you to meditate on your own dreams and aspirations. This weekend do something that will bring you joy and a feeling of freedom, whether it's going to the movies, sleeping in, working out, or going to a restaurant...do what you want to do without restrictions. Don't be afraid to try something new; you just might like it.

Create new experiences and add a new stamp to your passport of life. We are always evolving. It's nice to get advice and it may be coming from a place of love with the best intentions, but it is always important to follow your heart and your calling in life. Sometimes it might mean trekking in the mud, before taking the stroll on the beach. You will never know what can unfold until you create a life from your perspective. We all have the potential for greatness. I like to compare my life to the Lotus Flower. I am blossoming into something delicate and beautiful to behold, but like the lotus flower I had to plant my roots in the mud before I was able to break free to the surface to show the world who I really am, and how beautiful I have become.

Consider The Source:

1. Your Dreams, Your Wishes, Your Goals are yours and yours alone that's why you are unique.

2. Listen to advice but only accept what agrees with your own soul. You know what's right for you deep down inside.

3. When those you love give you advice that may discourage you, don't get angry consider their past experiences and fears. They want to protect you. Most of the time the discouragement is coming from a loving place.

4. It's ok to make mistakes...Isn't that how we learn?

5. Find someone to be your mentor. This person is going in the direction that you want to go, or they have already arrived.

6. Believe in yourself. (If you don't who will?)

7. Write down your dreams and work toward them one by one.

8. Relax and Breathe

9. Be Bold

10. Listen to your inner voice, meditate daily, and don't worry.